I am a woman who is childfree, call the police; I also spent 13 years in Haiti, now call the police...I do believe culture has a lot to do with our views on childbirth.
It has been tough for me growing up as a proud woman and expected to breed so much. Family members and people in general would push by saying things like ‘What is the point of getting married if you don’t plan to have children?’ I had to hear that he will leave and have children with another woman and I thought, so what? Me not wanting to have children means that I'm prepared to stay alone and not having a man actually is a sacrifice that I'm willing to make.
I started telling people that me not having children is economic rather than me not wanting them simply because I am tired of hearing that I will regret my decision or that kids bring so much joy into adult life. Sure I could tell them that I don't want to be like them, but sometimes I'm just not up for a debate. Today is the day to stand up for all childfree people. Today is Independence Day because it is time to break away from the chains of tradition and backward bull!
I respect people who have children and now it is time for them to respect me or I can be very disrespectful. If you choose to have children that should be a personal choice, not one that you want to force on others, because if you want others to have children, then it must be that misery loves company. No? If having children is so wonderful, why force others to have them? Why not let them come to that conclusion? No one ever complains about how hard it is, don't you find that suspicious? It never escapes their mouths that it's a full-time job. Misery might indeed love company. The number of women who do not have children is such a small number so it’s not like you are forcing me to have children because earth will suddenly run out of people. It is highly disrespectful to tell me what I can do with my body.
Having said that I will say a lot of discouraging things below to encouraging women not to have kids. Why? Because this is a website and I can do that, but I don’t go up to women with kids and ask why did you have them? But many people with kids think they can approach women without children and ask them why. What if I asked you why? Do you get the point? It is my body for a reason. I control when my arms move, when my legs move, etc. Do not force your nonsense on me.
Sure my judgment of you having kids is kept to myself. It is okay for me to not like a child as long as I treat your kids well, is it not? I don’t push them when they bump into me at the supermarket because of your lack of supervision. No. I realize that the fact that they bump into me has nothing to do with them, but it has everything to do with you. You see if I were a mother, I would hold my kid’s hand. Why? I would be that attentive to someone so small unable to fend for himself.
I do not want children. I do like them. I was wrong. Parents and their lack of common sense who pass that on to their kids is the problem. I don’t want children for many reasons and I will make a list shortly.
First I believe that the government should not control how many children women have. However, there is no way a 16-year old girl will comprehend arguments about overpopulation etc. Some women are careless in bed by failing to use condoms, so they need government-funded programs to help them remember why they do not want kids in the first place. And the government-funded programs to target teenage pregnancy and try to put an end to teen pregnancy by stating in a simple comprehensive way the reasons why having kids at a young age is a bad idea and the overpopulation argument can be made to them when they reach age 18 or 21, pick one.
For people like me, these programs would be reminders of the pressure of society and not to fall into the trap. Pressure from parents saying sentences like 'You will have children.' These government programs need to help women say ‘How dare you? This is my body.’ The pressure to have children is a huge one because it is isolating not to have kids when so many people are having children and forcing their views on you. How can I meet people like myself? So these government programs would bring like-minded people together.
The government need not tell people not to have children because they wouldn’t succeed, but they can help women see why it is beneficial not to have children. These agencies should be set up as an oasis for women to go to when the rest of the world is being judgmental. For instance, sometimes we don’t think about traditions. Why should we? It’s been done for thousands of years and sometimes we don’t pause because thousands of years is a long time to do something, so why change?
Below are my reasons for not having kids. I have no less right than a woman who has 10 children, because she decided to have 10 and I decided to have none. If my body is a machine for societal purposes, please let me know.
Reasons not to have children
1. You will work less because you have fewer mouths to feed.
2. You can retire sooner.
3. You will get more sleep and will not have to wake up in the middle of the night. You might get 8 hours or even 9 hours!
4. You will have lots of time to spend on yourself and significant other. Me time. Him time. Us time.
5. You can stay out late, take vacations whenever you want and spend less on vacations so you can take even more vacations. Life is less stressful and beautiful already. Now you’re living. Huh?
6. You will not invest 18 years into someone who may not take care of you when you get old. The selfish notion of having children to wipe your ass when you’re old will be gone and the job will instead be given to caregivers so you’re creating jobs. You’re now creating jobs. You see? You will single-handedly fix the economy. You’re somebody! You’ve made a difference. :) You know you’re immortal and will not have kids just to stay alive.
7. You will save the planet, less pollution and more food and resources to share among us who are already here. We are more likely to share because we know no one else will join us by surprise. Hello?
8. You will be able to adopt all the neglected kids in the world, because for every person who decides not to have kids, if they each adopt 2 children, maybe there would be no homeless kids in the world.
9. If there is running or panic and all hell breaks loose in the world, you will worry about yourself and not some little person’s future.
10. You won’t have huge arguments about how to discipline the kids or end up being a single father or mother because the person you thought would be there forever is not.
11. You won’t have to worry about dying while giving birth because there are many other ways to die.
12. You won’t have to worry about damaging the kid with your own DNA, low IQ or lack thereof, and just bad genes-period. I mean, don’t we all want to give birth to Einstein, but can we all? My IQ is 126, but come on, is that good enough? NO!!! Imagine not being blamed for fucking someone up-your kid might say, ‘You messed me up!’
13. You won’t have to worry about leaving behind an inheritance, paying for college or anything like that.
14. All the money you make would be spent on you. Imagine pink cotton candy, a puppy, seeing all of this huge country, eating lots and lots of delicious food at a restaurant in peace. What would extra money give you? Imagine being able to afford the best bed, which costs like $10,000 and literally sleeping in heaven (whatever floats your boat)
15. Imagine being in the car with someone (an adult)and not have to hear, ‘Mother-mom-mommy mommy mommy?’ Well you might still hear that. LOL. You get the idea…
16. Imagine not having to push a baby carriage down the streets and wondering will I have money to buy diapers.
17. Imagine a world with only ADULTS and no more kids like in the movie ‘Children Of Men.’ Imagine just leaving earth as is without causing further damage and focusing on the billions of people we have now. The kids who are here are already here, that’s fine. I was a kid once. But the world is full or almost at full capacity. If a child is not here, they’re not missing anything. If you’re religious they’re angels and if you’re not religious then they’re not missing anything. Heaven has more space. No? Heaven is prettier. No? Let’s leave earth as is. If you want to have kids, that’s fine, it is YOUR CHOICE, but if you’re on the fence, then think of my arguments.
18. Imagine working one job and not having another full-time one waiting at home.
19. Imagine what you would do with lots of free time. Free money.
20. And this is the most important. Think about how your life has been. Did you struggle? Did you have a hard time getting a job or going to school? What was your hardest trial? Do you think you can stand to have an extension of you go through that? If you had a great life, you’re the one who should be having kids because you can pass that on to them and they might have your luck and your joie de vivre.
2 comments:
Amen!
That was awesome.
The scary thing is that people smart enough to read this are the ones that are not going to have children and the idiots with the 15 IQ are going to have five children. Therefore, if you think our world if fucked up now, wait a few years and wait until the next crop of idiots are made. You know what happens when you make a copy of a bad copy? It gets worse.
Good luck out there people. Wrap it up.
Amen!
That was awesome.
The scary thing is that people smart enough to read this are the ones that are not going to have children and the idiots with the 15 IQ are going to have five children. Therefore, if you think our world if fucked up now, wait a few years and wait until the next crop of idiots are made. You know what happens when you make a copy of a bad copy? It gets worse.
Good luck out there people. Wrap it up.
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